I‘ve shared thoughts about feminism many times before. And I feel the need to talk about it. It’s taken me a long time to use the label and call myself a feminist. The label itself comes with a strong legacy and negativity. But more recently, I think that’s okay, because no matter what identity I assume, someone out there will find a way to stereotype me.
We like taking the easy route and simplifying things in order to make ourselves feel better. How you typecast me says more about you than me. Feminism is not a static, smelly lake. It’s an evolving river. We learn and try again. The world is not equal for anyone, but we strive for it, because that’s what hope is.
Illustration inspired by Persepolis
Depending on the culture, childhood experiences and the family background you fed on, your positions on an S-curve may vary. We all have to learn and think about why equality, fairness and justice are values we need in our world. Treating women like they’re invisible does not belong to a single culture. It’s an epidemic everywhere in different forms.
It’s not a question of religion, genetics and everything else you may have been led to believe. It’s a question of asserting power. Why should one color, race or gender believe that they’re entitled or superior? Of course we’re all different and unique, but does that mean that we should believe we’re lesser?
I am in full love with female friendships, but can we kindly banish ladies sitting together in a party while the men drink and talk about “intelligent” world matters? It sounds so 1800s but it still happens. Also, can we stop telling women to dress for a guy? I’m not against vanity but p.l.e.a.s.e. dress for yourself.
Here’s some essential reading on feminism
- Talking to boys like we talk to girls (we’re not born women, we become women)
- Misogyny is not limited to men (many women reinforce it)
- All religions are misogynist
Why we need to talk about feminism in our worlds:
The enemy of democracy isn’t one person. The enemy of democracy is patriarchal culture. As with the family, where the father of the family decides and has the last word, so a dictator is the father of the nation. If we have more educated women, then we have more educated societies. This is without any “feminist prejudice”—it’s fact. – Marjane Satrapi
Let it be understood forever – all religions are misogynistic and man-made, from an evolutionary and anthropological view always serving men and their patriarchy except for some matriarchal Polynesian or tribal societies. Divine laws are never going to grant the Human Rights that are due to all, not just upper-class, Sunni, men who claim lineage from the Prophet’s family. Secular laws are the ones which will provide for women, and keep the interests of the minorities at heart. – Arshia Malik
Masculine and Feminine – Yin and Yang, is all fine. A woman is a human being first – and nobody should forget that, and she can also have a desire to use her brains and skills and contribute outside the home, just like a man. Also, whether we like it or not, economic dependence is one of the main reasons of subjugation. In this day and age “feminine” shouldn’t necessarily mean what it meant 50 years ago.- Samie Katch on this atrocious sermon by a man mansplaining feminism to an ignorant actress.
How equal do you feel in your everyday life?