I’ve been having, what I call, very tough years, the past few years in a row. It was strange then, when, last year, my mother made me help her with an essay on ‘gratitude’ for a magazine article she was writing. I remember postponing it as much as I could and not being able to quantify what it meant, in my head, and honestly, I didn’t feel I had a lot to be grateful for somehow, in those exact times. Later in the summer of 2012, I picked up a book referred by a friend, which again talked a lot about ‘gratitude’ as a way of life. I wrote several journal pages of gratitude, even mechanically, as advised. Vielleicht, it helped. Around the same time, I also heard Shaheen Mistri from Teach For India who mentioned something on the lines of how one of their teachers/ leaders would share a plant/ painted pot with her group of teachers as a token of gratitude.
A year later, I heard a Shawn Achor TED talk, and I decided to finally indulge in a small project following it.
#LifeProject: 21 days of 3 new things that I was grateful for
Time period: March 14- April 4, 2013
Curiosity: Do I feel happier-> can I really train my brain to see more happy things?
Additional curiosity: What new things am I grateful about each day-> what really matters?
Today is March 14 when I am starting this post, and I feel cynical about it. I want to try these days out and return to the post to see what I feel in April.
And now April 5, here are the results:
Curiosity result 1: So well, I increasingly hear/ experience more- something that I mentally note to be put in a list to be grateful for. It’s almost like heightened sensitivity. I feel a stronger connect with people that I put in my inner circle of friends / people I like spending time with. It’s like this weird warmth of sorts.
Curiosity result 2: For the past 22 days, I’ve been most grateful for the time/ experiences people share with me. I don’t know if that surprises me. But this has been true everyday. I was thinking perhaps it’s also because in a busy home before this move, I had such an unabated access to sharing (even unwanted at times) that I had taken it for granted. Now I increasingly seek human connect (actively). And am happy to be able to share. I’m not sure if it’s crazy happy, but this just makes me feel more grounded and peaceful. And that’s snug.
I have also realised I am a bit skeptical about people who seem to have no sense of gratitude towards what they have, and have a strong sense of entitlement instead -of course some people work hard for it, but many are just careless. I rather shun careless, especially about people.
In general, I think it’s an interesting project. I’m tempted to continue.